It is in your power to cultivate creative yoni energy.
Our vaginas are an untapped source of creativity. The dominant culture demonizes and vilifies the very birthplace of every human walking the planet. This is a healing journey that each woman must self-define. Our pelvic organs are in constant and remarkable communication with one another. This visceral dialogue provides us with the stunning ability to release our daily waste, share our deepest love, and birth our children. Tap into this discourse with a pleasant “Hello Yoni, what do you need?” Establishing this conscious pathway of communication builds reliance on Yoni-energy and a deeper integration of her power.
Pelvic floor disorders affect the muscular hammock between your tailbone and pubic bone. This musculature supports your bladder, uterus and rectum. Disorders of the pelvic floor include: pain with intercourse, pre and postpartum issues, pelvic pain, weakness, incontinence, and prolapse.
These issues are deeply personal. Often as women, we are reluctant to talk about them and seek a solution. After decades of studying the anatomy and physiology of the pelvic floor, in concert with careful patient observation, I developed these ten ways to restore vaginal health and vitality.
Orgasm is a natural and vital pelvic floor strengthener. Explore whatever method of self-stimulation suits you. Patients often share with me their concern that clitoral orgasm is inferior to vaginal orgasm. Orgasm is a sacred ecstasy and we are all wired differently. Research has revealed that the way we reach orgasm is as diverse as our sexual preferences. Play with (literally) how you can direct endorphin release and send energy to other areas of the body when you orgasm. If you are comfortable allow this exploration to inform sex with your partner.
Allow yourself to Be fully pissed Off: Our sense of somatic control is often first established around the bladder and continence. As children we recognize we can control our bladders or not. The adults around us may want to hasten the potty training process resulting in the coupling of self-worth to bladder function. This may be the first experience of disassociation from true self. Now you are loved for what you do, not for who you are. It’s a lot of emotional baggage lacquered onto all the physiological responsibilities. No wonder she’s pissed off!
Pee standing: When we pee standing, we engage the pelvic floor muscles differently and must recruit against gravity. Be careful and limit this to only a couple times a week in the shower. Otherwise the delicate neural and muscular balance can be affected adversely. When you sit to pee abdominal pressure increases on the bladder assisting the flow of urine. When you stand to pee the bladder muscles are a bit more challenged. Besides it’s fun! Try to perfect your aim.
Lateral breathing: Many of us store trauma and tension in the yoni. Tucking your tail is a reflexive and primal response to fear. To counteract this tendency, place your hands as wide as you can on the lower ribs, just like putting your hands on your hips with attitude, only higher on the ribs.
Close your eyes and slowly inhale. Feel the ribs expand OUT into your hands. You can even play with pushing the ribs gently into your palms.
As you exhale let everything drop, especially your shoulders.
Repeat ten times daily. This breath work promotes total relaxation of the pelvic floor.
Relax Your Jaw: The jaw and the yoni are sisters. Midwives have known this for centuries. If one is tight the other reflects that tension. Conversely when you relax and soften one the other follows. Check in with your jaw throughout the day to let the tension go. This can be a fulltime job. Part of lateral breathing can be to visualize the jaw widening and softening with the inhale.
Hydrate: Drink half your body weight in ounces of water. Hydration is vastly important for optimal health, and critical for bladder happiness. Take a few days to gradually increase your water intake and in general sip your water through out the day. Water intake is affected by exercise and outdoor activities in the heat.
You will know you are properly hydrated when:
You urinate every 2.5-3 hours
Your urine is the color of pale hay
Keep your diet alkaline: Maintaining a low acid diet is beneficial for general health and necessary for calming the bladder. Check https://draxe.com/acidic-foods/ for details.
Use coconut oil internally: Coconut oil lubricates and hydrates vaginal tissue. Use it at night, before bed, inserting a small amount into the vagina. Apply it more often if dryness is an issue. It is an excellent lubricant for intercourse.
Avoid Valsalva: Valsalva is the medical term for bearing down with the abdominal muscles, or straining, to empty the bladder or rectum. Sometimes people do this habitually to pee or poop and over time that will weaken the pelvic floor muscles, and the ligaments that suspend the bladder and uterus.
Train your pelvic floor muscles properly: I would estimate that only ten percent of the Pelvic Floor patients I see can properly engage their Pelvic Floor muscles. Women are routinely told to do Kegels with no instruction.
Here is the absolute easiest and best way to begin your YONI workout:
Gently insert your finger with some coconut oil
Pull your vaginal muscles in and up
Don’t push out
You should encourage your muscles to contract 360 degrees, imagine a camera aperture closing
Exercise her daily
Once you are proficient it is the perfect antidote to a boring meeting.
Visit a physical therapist for a lesson.